Is College in the U.S Really the American Dream?

By Kaya Collins
Forsyth Central High School

College tuition, student loans, piles of money for average education, and…wait – free education across seas?

Graduating students in America already have so much to worry about when making the transition from high school to higher education. Tuition is just one more stress factor that gets thrown into the mix. People from all over the world make the move to the U.S. for college. It’s the “American dream” to come study, live and thrive in the U.S. But what if it turns out that university in Europe is actually more cost effective, simpler and just happens to be outstanding education?

Hearing something like “low cost” may sound like low funded schools and poor education, but universities in Europe are actually found to have simpler yet more effective learning structures while remaining cost efficient and affordable. According to GBSB GLOBAL, bachelor’s and master’s programs are shorter in Europe while maintaining low-cost or free tuition. This allows students to focus more on their education and then entering the workforce much sooner than average American students, as well as sustain a higher quality of life throughout their college years.

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European universities are more often built into their cities in contrast to American colleges which commonly have their own “college town” and communities. Students in Europe are able to live, work, study and socialize in these major cities which allows them to be more independent and thrive as young adults. Students can view this as a positive or negative and that entirely depends on the individual’s personality and skills.

Trigger warning: Admissions.

One large stress factor for students in America is the admissions process in their senior year of high school.

Essay this. GPA that. Clubs and sports and test scores this.

It can quickly get suffocating. Universities across seas still have an admissions process of course, but schools tend to focus more on grades and test scores of classes related to the intended major of the student compared to the complex route the U.S. takes. This way, students are able to focus on their specialized interests and skills and truly prepare for higher education before they even graduate high school.

American universities have great pieces to offer and provide incredible opportunities for students, but may not be worth the heavy costs that come attached with exceptional, cost effective schools in Europe.

Forget the “American dream” for a moment. Instead, switch to the mindset “when in Rome” and head on over.

Has Sports Betting Changed Sports Fandom For The Worse?

By Becket McDuffie
Palos Verdes High School

The loudest reaction in my living room wasn’t when Georgia scored the game-winning touchdown. It was when a meaningless 3-yard rush ruined someone’s parlay.

“Are you kidding me?” my friend yelled at the TV.

At first I thought he was upset about the game. He wasn’t, Georgia was winning. The season wasn’t on the line. Nothing had changed except the fact that one player had failed to reach a statistical milestone he needed for a bet.

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That was the moment I realized some fans aren’t really watching sports anymore. They’re watching their gambling slips.

Growing up, sports were simple. My friends and I argued about who would win, who deserved a championship and which players were the best. Now those conversations sound different.

“Did you hit your parlay?”

“What’s the over-under?”

“Did that touchdown cash your bet?”

Somewhere along the way, the game stopped being enough. Sports betting has exploded across America, becoming one of the fastest growing parts of the sports industry. While gambling has made games more exciting for some viewers, I believe it has changed sports fandom for the worse by shifting attention away from the teams and competition, towards the money. Ever since the Supreme Court legalized sports betting nationwide in 2018, sports gambling advertisements appear during nearly every major sporting event, and betting odds are discussed as frequently as scores and statistics.

There’s nothing wrong with enjoying sports betting responsibly. For many fans, it adds excitement to games they otherwise might not watch. However, when the financial outcome becomes more important than the actual competition, sports begin to lose what made them so special in the first place.

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The influence of sports betting is hard to ignore. According to Front Office Sports, Americans legally wagered more than $147 billion on sports in 2024, a dramatic increase from just a few years ago. As betting has grown, so has its presence in sports broadcasts. When fans are constantly being encouraged to place bets, it’s no surprise that many begin to focus more on their wagers than the teams they are supposedly supporting.

Sports betting isn’t going anywhere, and I’m not arguing that it should. Adults should have the freedom to place bets if they choose. But as sports gambling becomes more common, fans need to remember why they started watching in the first place. Sports are supposed to be about competition, loyalty and unforgettable moments, not just winning money. If we reach the point where a missed parlay matters more than a championship, then sports betting won’t have improved sports fandom. It will have changed it for the worse.

Behind the Wheel: Beyond the Stereotype

By Bristol Hardman
Madison County High School

For many people, Nascar is just a group of drivers making endless left turns around a track. But spending a few minutes inside a race car — traveling nearly 200 miles per hour, enduring extreme heat, split-second decision-making and hours of physical strain — and that opinion quickly changes. The belief that Nascar isn’t a real sport ignores the athleticism, mental toughness, and skill required to compete at the highest level. If sports are defined by physical ability, strategy, training and competition, then Nascar deserves a place alongside football, basketball and every other major sport.

Brad Keselowski is a 42-year-old Nascar Cup Series Champion. All throughout his Cup Series career, he has had major injuries like a broken femur and fractured ankle and he has had to recover through physical therapy. But he still got in the race car and raced.

On March 2, 2025, Brad Keselowski’s cooling-suit failed and he was sent to the infield care center to be hooked up to an IV to get the fluids he needed. The race car he was in got up to 150°F and his body heat was 130°F, so in total the race car felt like 280°F. Athletes in other sports do not have to experience what 280°F feels like, but these racers feel that heat every time they step into a car to race.

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Christopher Bell is a 31-year-old All-Star Race winner. Bell is one of the younger drivers and he is a little smaller than the other drivers. On June 7, 2026, he was racing for the lead at Michigan and he collied with Chase Elliot and hit the wall at 200mph and demolished his car and Elliot’s race car as well. His injuries were a fractured wrist. He did not speak with broadcasters after to get his side of his story.

Nascar drivers have to go through extreme practices to get their bodies to even be able to stand the heat and exhaustion that goes into racing. They go through cardiovascular conditioning, extreme heat training, hydration protocols, and extensive mental and stimulator practice. During their cardiovascular conditioning they tend to cycle, run and swim to learn how to keep their heart rate down under stress. While doing heat training, they sit in warm environments like hot yoga to get their bodies used to the high temperatures in the race cars. They also work on their strength and flexibility, which focuses on neck strengthening and upper-body stamina to withstand the weight of the helmet and the steering force.

People tend to say that these drivers aren’t athletes because they think the machines do all the work and that the drivers don’t do the standard athletic movements. Nascar doesn’t change anything major in the race cars unless there is a major injury or death so until something physically happens, the rules stay the same. That is not right. They should be changing the race car every time a driver enters it because the safety of these drivers should be the first priority.

Yes, fans do not like the changes that the teams do because it could make the race car slower, or that it is not the same as the 1980 stock cars that everyone fell in love with. But in this day and time, you can’t have those cars because of the competitiveness and how light these cars are, and that can result in more injuries and flips.

If the fans of Nascar would actually think about these driver’s safety instead of just thinking about their experience and how fast the car can go, there wouldn’t be as many injuries, deaths or malfunctions happening to these drivers. Athletes get in these race cars because this is what they love to do, even if there is a chance that it is their last, because anything can happen in a split second.

We need more fall sports

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by Paul Chandler
Athens Academy

Going into the second semester of school, I often feel jarred choosing between one of the many sports being offered. The question comes to mind, “Why can’t some of these be moved into the fall semester.” Well, being in the south that answer is always football, the most popular sport. This is understandable because it brings in the revenue and all, but shouldn’t there be a way to not make multi sport athletes have to choose between Track and Field, Baseball, Soccer, Tennis, Softball or Golf?

All of these sports are able to be played in the fall semester except for soccer which would invade Football since they play on the same field.

According to Sanford Health, specializing in one sport also poses a higher risk for overuse injuries and burnout. On top of that 30 of the 32 first round picks in the 2017 NFL draft played multiple sports in high school, showing the competitive and health benefits of playing multiple sports.

The window to play multiple enjoyable sports for many athletes is thrown out the window by most sports being crowded into the spring season. Since less than 1% of young athletes will make a career out of playing sports, the focus should be on opportunity to enjoy and play sports. Expanding on that topic, we should allow for multiple spring sports to be played in the fall season.

I obviously understand that football will always be a priority, but restricting athletic potential and forcing kids to play one sport and making them make the hard choice of which sport they need to cut out of their high school life is not worth it just to keep the spotlight focused on football, even when most students don’t play it.

BBL Bodies: The New Normal?

by Tiffany Harris
Pebblebrook High School

Brazilian Butt Lifts are the new service in the industry that lots are raving for, but what image is this creating for the world on body types. Are we normalizing going under the knife rather than going on the treadmill? Is the look worth the risk?

A Brazilian Butt Lift is a procedure that is a few surgeries in one. You go under anesthesia and then liposuction (suctioning out fat cells) is done on areas like the stomach, thighs, or lower back. Next, your fat is essentially “purified” to ensure it’s safe to go back into your body. After your fat is prepped and ready, it gets inserted in the needed areas to get the “lifted” shape. Lastly, they drain your body from any fluid build-up and close the incisions. 

Now the hard part is done– or is it? The next step is the healing process which can take up to a year, with two weeks not sitting down on your bottom. Imagine that? You can’t even sit down for two weeks just to look a certain way. Several celebrities have done this surgery and openly talk about it, which isn’t a bad thing; However this is sending out a message to young women all around that this look is the only accepted look by the world. In our day to day lives, we hear in songs rappers and pop artists talk about women’s bodies and how they want them to look. 

“All I would hear them talking about is big butts, and I didn’t feel complete or good enough, good as those girls because I’m like, ‘Oh My God, you know, this is what you’re supposed to look like in the rap culture, and I don’t look like that,” Famous female rapper Nicki Minaj spoke in an interview with Joe Budden about her struggles with her body image.

In the interview, Minaj opened up about why she felt insecure about her body at such a young age and revealed it was due to her male friends commenting about other women’s bodies. She talks about her struggle with her body image and the pressure to conform to certain beauty standards. However, she also blames herself for slightly creating the standard. 

“Superstars inadvertently become role models,” said Minaj.

The BBL body type is so serious to some, we ignore the risks sometimes. According to Los Angeles Times, Television personality & actress,  Jacklyn Smith or better known as Jacky Oh, underwent surgery in May 2023 for a “mommy makeover.” The surgery went well, until the next day when she started to complain of an ongoing, intensifying headache. As her headache turned into a burning sensation, her mom rushed her to the emergency room. Unfortunately after being rushed to the hospital, she was pronounced dead shortly before midnight. If society was accepting of natural bodies and didn’t bash new mothers into snapping back into shape, maybe women wouldn’t have to risk their life just to feel normal.

On the other hand, some celebrities are openly expressive and appreciative of their surgery. Lots of women like JT, Saweetie and even Kim Kardashian openly talk about their enhancements and how it has boosted their confidence. As stated in Guardian Life Archives, Nigerian Celebrity, Tonto Dikeh says she “see’s surgery as a form of self-care and urges women to do what makes them happy.” 

While we shouldn’t bash women for getting surgery, we shouldn’t put down women for not having it. Without appreciation for natural bodies, all young women will lose self-esteem and confidence. Looking perfect all the time isn’t the goal of life, so we shouldn’t have to permanently alter ourselves to fit into unrealistic standards. 

The ADHD rampage: are we being over-diagnosed?

by Avika Anand
South Forsyth High School

Mental health disorders and condition awareness have been on the rise. Across social media, content creators have been emphasizing the importance of diagnosing and treating mental health deficiencies. But with the rise of the influencer era, has mental health awareness lost its integrity?

The phrases “My OCD cannot handle this” and “I have ADHD or something” have been spoken by many of us. But how true are these statements? Has it become a trend to claim to have these conditions?

The Association of American Medical Colleges reports that currently, 1 of every 4 adults suspects they have ADHD (attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder). What’s more, this suspicion began during the COVID-19 pandemic for most. As people sat at home with little to do, boredom was guaranteed. This led most people to develop similar symptoms to ADHD and then consult healthcare providers, hoping to receive a prescription to ease their symptoms. Additionally, with the rise of social media “there’s been a lot of misinformation, sensationalizing and generalizing” claims Dr. Craig Surman.

Dr. Elizabeth Wolf speculates that the rise in diagnoses is correlated with the reduction in criteria to “have the disorder”. The required symptoms to verify ADHD have reduced from six to five factors, allowing for more people to qualify for prescription medications to treat ADHD.

What is the harm? Over-diagnosis of ADHD can result in overmedicating people who do not even require certain medications. This perilous and potentially irreversible practice can result in neurological damage. ADHD is most caused due to an abundance in white and gray matter in the brain as described by the American Psychiatric Association. Generally, it is treated by medications, specifically inhibitors to block the reuptake and release of neurotransmitters such as dopamine. However, if these medications are taken without an excess of these neurotransmitters, they can result in an imbalance, inhibiting normal brain function.

Additionally, therapy is generally recommended as well, which, if unnecessary, results in discomfort and insecurity due to the diagnosis and unfitting treatment. Misdiagnosed ADHD usually results in additional conditions such as depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts and humiliation or insecurity.

Accurate diagnoses are best conducted by a licensed healthcare professional. Social media and influencers are not a credible enough source to begin taking prescription medications and receiving treatment or a diagnosis. If you suspect ADHD or other mental conditions or suspect misdiagnosis, consult a healthcare provider. If you are having suicidal thoughts or need to have a conversation about your mental health, contact the 988 hotline.

Don’t hesitate to get help. You are valid in your doubts and questions.

Perfection: The Truth Behind the 4.0

Succeeding and doing well is a goal of many students. But, are they willing to feel the flame of academic burnout?

May 23 was my last day of school. Instead of spending it with end of the year parties or watching movies in class, I was spending it taking my geometry final. After taking my final and leaving the school building with my classmates, I felt stress free. During the school year I had many focuses, but school was most important. Since it was my first year of high school, I wanted to make sure I started it off with a 4.0. All of the late nights studying and working on projects paid off. I earned my 4.0. Although I earned straight A’s, I wasn’t aware of the price that I would have to pay. The excitement of the end of school was temporary. But the feeling of burnout and exhaustion feels permanent and continues to follow into my summer.

At the beginning of the summer, although I slept in a lot, I felt exhausted throughout the day. Sometimes I would even take long naps, which I don’t ever do. Also, getting started with my summer work felt impossible. I would constantly sit around, lacking energy, procrastinating starting my work. I felt so tired, yet so guilty for sitting around. I felt lazy.

Even during the school year I would be greeted with muscle aches. These aches possibly formed because of how tense I was studying for the tests that would trickle in one by one during the week. My sleep schedule was messed up and I would be exhausted the following day. I would hardly give myself breaks because I was so nervous that I was going to fail a test, so I kept studying.

The “Polygence” reported on a 2017 study which concluded that academic burnout shows cognitive, affective and physical symptoms. An example of a cognitive symptom is not engaging in work. An affective symptom is feeling tense and irritable. A physical symptom is decreased energy and chronic tiredness. Another study talked about how experiencing academic burnout causes students to earn lower gpa and perform not as well in school. 

A survey that was recorded by the student president of the William McKinley High School in Hawaii school in 2022, they found that 71% of students reported going facing burnout at least once in their life and 57.3% reported that they experienced it more than once and it’s described as “the main stressor.”

There are many different causes of academic burnout. For many, it’s the immense pressure of perfection. For me, since I usually perform well in school, I didn’t want to slip up and potentially mess up my gpa.

In 2023, Junior Monica Velasquez was given the title gifted at a young age and that brought on the perfectionist mindset.

“Being labeled as “gifted” at a young age planted the thought that everything I do should be perfect,” said Velaquez. “I thought of myself as a failure if I did not perform better than everyone else. My worth solely depended on my grades and achievements.”

As students and as humans we tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves until we are over the edge. It’s possible for opponents to say that recognizing academic burnout is just recognizing weakness. But the struggles of students deserve to be heard. We shouldn’t just be on the sidelines watching students’ mental wellbeing plummet.

A lot of schools don’t tend to cover academic burnout and its importance in how it impacts students during the school year. I feel like schools should cover how to recognize and prevent it. I also feel like it would be beneficial for parents to talk to their children about how perfection isn’t everything.

As a society we should strive for excellence, being the best we can be, not perfection.

Is NIL Ruining College Sports?

With college sports on a rise paying athletes only right, but at what point is NIL becoming to much? Is NIL taking away from student-athletes and making them just athletes.

NIL, which stands for “name, image, and likeness,” becoming official July 1, 2021 allowing student-athletes to make a profit from their NIL. If the athlete would like, they can hire an agent or business advisors but isn’t required. The polices and certain colleges require to know all details of deals or any possible deals with the school and have to be approved before any signing is done. NIL deals vary from all types of things. Popular ones being high end clothing and shoes or school related materials.

NIL has taken over the NCAA these past 4 years. According to sports illustrated in 2025 Arch Manning, University of Texas quarterback will be making $6.5 million. Manning is only a sophomore, during his freshman year he was the backup quarter back for Quinn Ewers, who declared to the NFL draft and was drafted by the Miami Dolphins. Manning only appeared in two games his freshman season making $3.2 million and not even starting a game. Cooper Flagg, the number one projected pick in the 2025 NBA Draft made at least $28 million just one season alone at Duke Fox Sports states. The $28 million is based on Flagg’s deal with brands like New Balance and Fanatics. Flagg had more NIL deals with Gatorade, AT&T, Cort Furniture and The NIL Store with those prices being unknown leaving us knowing he made at least $28 million. If picked as the first overall pick Flagg’s rookie contract will be on an average scale around $62.7 million. Another stand out freshman and national champion Jeremiah Smith makes around $4 million Sports illustrated says. Smith has partnerships with, Nintendo, Epic Ames, Redbull, American Eagle Outfitters and Lululemon. He’s ranked number 3 among college players in NIL value.

Granted these star athletes bring in huge attention and money to the school but here when it starts to get out of hand. This is when the transfer portal gets involved. The transfer portal is an online system where college athletes can declare their intention to transfer to another school publicly. It allows coaches from other schools to view information about athletes and reach out to them. As soon as a player enters the portal all their academic records become visible and the recruiting process starts all over again. A more recent example of transfer portal situations is Nico Iamaleava, Tennessee’s former quarterback, he left the university to seek a higher NIL after Tennessee refused. According to multiple reports Iamaleava was trying to renegotiate his $2 million a year contract with the school in hopes for a new $4 million a year contract. After the school declined this negotiation Iamaleava refused to show up to practices and missed the spring game in hopes to change their minds. Not long after, Iamaleava posted on Instagram his new commitment post to UCLA, which, UCLA offer was not remotely close to the $4 million he wanted. The Tennessee coach and athletic director were positive they made the right idea. Tennessee is a large football school being an SEC team, the Vols went 6-2 this past season and making the College Football Playoffs but fell short to the Ohio State. Meanwhile UCLA went 3-6 and hasn’t made the playoffs since 2014. It shows Iamaleava was more focused on his NIL income compared to playing for a team that’s a better overall team and has produced more professional athletes. It’s sad to see someone with so much talent and potential waste it somewhere just to make more money. This exist shocked his teammates. “He left his brothers behind,” Boo Carter says, a receiver and defensive back at Tennessee said.

This to pay and play system system does question the schools loyalty, the players loyalty, but the fans too.

A sports page made a poll for college fans to vote how they felt about NIL and 53 percent voted its ruining the sport while only seven precent voted its a great thing for players. Looking at St. Johns basketball team one team leader R.J. Luis entered the NBA Draft, soon players flooded into the portal. The school lost eight of their nine rotation players. Along with McNeese State team manager entering the transfer portal and signing a $100 thousand NIL deal transferring to NC State.

What makes people enjoy college sports more is watching young athletes are not playing for money like the pros but the love of the game, unfortunately now it isn’t the same. The logo on players jerseys has now lost its meaning and is represented by the most followers and the biggest paychecks. NIL made these athletes believe playing for a brand is more important. The process of recruiting players has changed drastically since NIL, it used to be you would commit to the school with the culture, team chemistry, and coaches. Now to get recruits you try to bring them in to offer the most money. Schools with less funding are losing out on key players. College sports has turned into a business more than anything.

“When it came down to making my final decision, there were teams throwing money at me, this and that, trying to bribe me,” wide receiver T.J. Moore said. “But Clemson felt right. Clemson is what I was taught to like when I was a kid.”

What Moore said is a perfect example of college sports were like before NIL was introduced, you committed to the school you dreamed of going to or grew up watching.

This year was the first year since 2008 all seeds in the Final Four were all the number one seed. The Final Four consisted of Florida, Duke, Houston and Auburn. Leaving the final matchup being both number one seeds it brings it more viewers knowing the game will be closer in score and competitive. When theres a lower seed and higher seed less people watch thinking the higher seed will more than likely win. People were upset knowing there was no “Cinderella stories” in this year’s tournament. Lots of people said it had something to do with NIL big time schools paying the best players to win them championships which happened to the Florida Gators this year. With just generating $1.5 million the week of the final four.

NIL is paying some of these players more than they would make in the pros if signed. Shedeur Sanders was worth $6.5 million yearly while drafted by the Cleveland Browns with the 144 pick Sanders signed a 4 year contract worth $4.6 million, a drastic drop from his NIL checks.

The question now is, is it even worth going pro for these big college athletes with insane NIL deals?

With the NBA Draft the end of this month, only 106 players declared early for the draft. It’s the fewest since 2015 (before NIL). The number typically varies around 300.

So quickly these players who become millionaires, are still students?

When this athletes pile up NIL checks how will they still reflect positive efforts on the academic side of school.

Paying athletes in college is important and something we need to keep because they bring so much revenue to schools by NIL has ruined the traditional college experience.

Why Do The Clothes I Wear Matter To You?

By: Madison McKenzie

Have you ever put on a really cute outfit and you are feeling confident? You can feel peoples eyes on you, and then you start seeing looks of disgust and hatred. That has happened to me. Whether it was because my stomach was out, too much skin was showing or because I wore something that people don’t normally wear. People will judge you wherever you go and that is a lesson I had to learn.

In some cases, the clothes you wear would matter. There is a time and a place for the outfits you should wear. You don’t want to wear an overly revealing outfit to a very important meeting or interview. But, if you are out somewhere to hangout, eat, have fun with friends whatever the case may be , then you should be able to wear what you want (as long as you aren’t showing all of your bits and pieces). People should not dictate what you can and cannot wear. Other people should not be able to dim your light.

I feel that people who are not you, shouldn’t have a say in what you decide to put on your body. Sometimes, the clothes that we wear are an expression of how we feel. You are decorating yourself in a way that makes you happy. People shouldn’t feel self-conscious because someone looked at them with a side eye and made them feel as if they were ugly or looked like an outcast.

Your clothing choices shouldn’t be changed because someone else’s views. One’s fashion choices is supposed to be a form of self projection, a way to show what you like and how you want to be viewed. This means that people should have the right to their own style. Some outfits should only be worn at certain events and some outfits will make you look twice. But that aside, don’t diminish who you are to satisfy others.

Fashion experts say that the clothes that we wear show the personality that we created for ourselves. This is because it is a form of self expression which should be important to everybody. Nobody should tell you what you can and cannot wear. They are not you and you are not them. Don’t let them diminish your light.

Opinion Story

Growing up, I learned early on how to pretend. Not pretend in the playful, childhood sense — like dress-up or imaginary games — but a more quiet, painful kind of pretending. 

I learned how to act like everything was fine even when it wasn’t, especially when it came to food, my body and how I saw myself. And If I’m being honest, a lot came from growing up next to someone who seemed to have the body I was always told I should want.

My sister has always been skinny. Naturally thin, effortlessly “perfect.” I’d hear people compliment her over and over: “You’re so tiny!” “You could be a model!” Even when they didn’t  say anything directly to me, I could feel the comparison hanging in the air like a fog I couldn’t escape. Like a moth watching a beautiful butterfly flying through flowers.  I was growing up in a body that didn’t match hers, and somehow that made me feel like mine was wrong — like I was the “before” picture no one wanted to be. I remember my mom saying, “Put the food down Saybel, your sister needs it more.” This cut deep between me and my mother’s relationship.

So I started hiding. I didn’t talk about how hard it was to eat in front of people. I didn’t admit how often I skipped meals, or how much shame I carried around after eating something “bad.” I smiled. I laughed. I made jokes. And inside, I quietly punished myself for not being “enough.” I told myself if I could just be skinny like her, things would feel OK. That I’d feel OK. 

But it wasn’t just my sister’s body I was comparing myself to — it was every girl on my screen. Social media, TV shows, magazines, ads … they all sent the same message: thin is beautiful, and everything else you have to “fix.” Every time I opened Instagram or TikTok, I saw endless videos of girls with flat stomachs, perfect angles and “What I eat in a day” clips that added up to barely a snack. When those images are all you see, they start to feel like the only standard that matters. What made it worse is how fake so much of it is – filters, Photoshop, angles and lighting tricks. I didn’t just want to be skinny ; I wanted to be accepted, loved, and seen the way those girls were. I didn’t realize that I was measuring myself against something that isn’t even humanly achievable most of the time.

But here’s the truth : Striving to look like someone else — especially someone you love — is a trap. It doesn’t make you feel better. It just makes you feel invisible. I was fighting a battle inside my own mind, and nobody knew. And I let that happen, because I thought admitting it would make me weak. I didn’t know that there is real strength in saying, “I’m not OK.”

Now I’m starting to learn that I deserve to be seen as I am. That my body is not a failure just because it isn’t like hers. That no one should feel like a failure because their bodies are different. That food is not something to earn or fear. And that pretending doesn’t protect me — it only isolates me. What I needed back then wasn’t perfection. It was protection and compassion. It was someone to say, “You don’t have to look like her. You’re already worthy.”

I am proud of who I am and how I look. I’m not going to pretend anymore.