Man or Bear: Why Women Cannot Afford to Choose the Man

by Madison Connor
Hebron Christian Academy

“When everyone believes you, what’s that like?”

Legendary singer, songwriter, doctor, and performer Taylor Swift released a song during her Lover era called, “The Man,” which discusses sexism she has experienced both in the media, and in the world. In the song she asks a powerful question, “When everyone believes ya, what’s that like?”

The reason this question is so powerful is because as women, we are rarely believed. Not to say that men are also not believed, but it is much more common for women to be doubted, scrutinized, accused of lying, accused of tempting and looked at like they do not belong. a A recent media controversy has spiked, started by a man, asking women the question of “Would you rather be alone in the woods with a random man or bear,” and to their surprise, many women  chose a bear.

“Only wear one earphone, check behind you every minute or so, never be alone with a man you do not know, never leave your drink unattended, scream, give them a fight, always be aware of your surroundings. and learn self defense.”

Many people ask why women chose the bear, but contrary to popular opinion, it is not because women woke up one day and decided to hate men. It is a result of conditional training and instinct women have been given over centuries that have taught us to be wary of men, many of them quoted above. It is a result of the fact that over hundreds of years, women have been treated like second class citizens, inferior to men,, treated like cattle, treated as objects by men, and treated like birth-givers and nothing else. We are told that boys are boys. School dress codes are even implemented supporting these notions, with girls having to dress conservatively to not “tempt” the boys.  

“I still have nightmares years later.”

One of my dearest friends said this about the man — a family member — who sexually assaulted her when she was much younger. This is another reason why women are choosing the bear, because they won’t have to see the bear at the family reunion. This response, for me, is also a result of the fact that almost every single woman in my life has been nearly sexually assaulted, sexually assaulted or knows someone who has. It is a result of the fact that in America, a person is sexually assaulted every 68 seconds, with 91% of sexual assaults being done to women, and 99% done by men. It is a result of the fact that many women, including myself, feel that if they have not joined this statistic, they will.

“At least if I got attacked by a bear people would actually believe me.”

Many have said this about why they chose the bear, specifically, content creator @mrsjrd on Tiok. No matter how prolific the person is, from superstar Taylor Swift to a fhigh school girl, women are not believed. Taylor Swift was questioned, scrutinized, and judged when she had eight witnesses, and a photo of the assault happening, so why would anyone believe the woman whose only witness is herself? Even with bites, marks and DNA evidence, women are questioned, but, if you show marks from a bear, you are more likely to be believed.

“He didn’t seem threatening; he was skinny as a rake, aging and shorter than me.”

Anna Richards, a hiker on a trail in Armenia actually was faced with this hypothetical country. She took up an offer from a beekeeper to sleep on his porch to avoid the bears. Not even 12 hours later, she said she felt a body on hers and hot breath on her neck. Thankfully, Richards was able to push the man off, but it goes to show that even if women do choose men, it does not pay off.

“You know what to expect from a bear.”

This is exactly what my dad said on whether or not he would want me, his youngest child, alone in the woods with a man or a bear. Because, either a bear will attack or leave you alone, but a man is unpredictable.

“I want to rape you”

When I was 13, that was the phrase I received from a man solely because I would not send nudes to a man who was at least 17. This was solely a reaction to the fact I would not send nudes, and one could only imagine what would have happened if I faced this interaction in person. All of these reasons very clearly showcase why I would choose the bear, and I would probably choose the bear even if I know the man, because as my dad said, men are unpredictable.

“Men are beasts, and even beasts don’t behave as they do”

“BookTok” is ruining the romance genre

by Liv Selman
West Laurens High School

Growing up as a reader, getting book recommendations from my friends was a memorable and fun aspect of my childhood. My friends and I would read a series together and obsess over characters and get excited together over plot twists.  

With the creation of social media and its ability to connect people across the globe, engaging in book recommendations became a larger-than-life fad for a community of mostly women on TikTok. Thus, the term “BookTok” was born.

At first glance, BookTok seems like a wholesome concept. It has really made reading fun and accessible for all people on the internet. However, it has gained a bad reputation from the types of books that it praises and recommends, specifically in the romance genre.  

It is common to find videos of people suggesting poorly-written books only because they are sexually-explicit. Although it is not typically categorized as porn, according to researchers, reading things like this can have similar negative effects on the brain, such as impulsiveness, desensitization to reward, and anxiety and depression.  

The creators that promote these books also fail to realize that they may be unintentionally encouraging younger viewers of their content to pick up these books. This coincides with the cartoon-cover designs that many publishers have chosen for these books that make them appear unassuming and kid-friendly. While these covers may make romance books less embarrassing to read in public(as opposed to a classic cover image of a bare-chested man), they can be misleading to young children on TikTok who are looking to get into reading.

TikTok user @nicolereadsalot said in a video about this subject, “Do not let book covers fool you, some of them look so sweet and innocent, but are filthy.”

BookTok has given the romance genre a bad reputation. Throughout time, certain romance books have been regarded as classics, such as Jane Austen’s “Pride and Prejudice,” Margaret Mitchell’s “Gone With The Wind” and Emily Bronte’s “Wuthering Heights.”  These books are all astounding works of literature that deeply explore the lives of the two romantic leads and the progression of their relationships.  These works represent the epitome of what the genre of romance should represent– an exploration of what it means to be vulnerable and human.  

However, when people on TikTok announce to the world that the romance book they just finished is “very spicy,” it doesn’t paint the romance genre or readers in general in a good light.

The problematic content of BookTok is not limited to literary porn.  Even worse, there is a sub-committee who promote books that romanticize abuse, which they have categorized as “dark romance.”  These books have plots based around female characters being stalked, assaulted, or kidnapped by their love interest.  Obviously, this can be very damaging to real life survivors of these things because it minimizes their experiences and turns them into entertainment.  

So, what can be done to combat the perversion of the romance genre on TikTok?   We cannot control what people choose to post or read, but we can control what books we choose to pick up and which creators we listen to.  One of the most powerful aspects of reading is that it is all about one’s own personal experience– we read what we believe is quality and what we are interested in.  That is the beauty of being a reader– it is all up to you. 

Just a Crush to Journalism Career

Journalism sensation, Joe Dennis, continues to leave an impact in the journalism industry, but it all had to start from somewhere.

“I’ve had a lot of criticism. I believe that I used to be very self conscious of things. But, whenever it came to anything I produced journalistically, and I got a lot of criticism, I wouldn’t even become defensive. I guess I was always more happy, they were just joining in as a part of the process,” said Dennis. “So, anytime there was feedback, it almost made me feel good, because I’m like, wow, this person cares enough to take the time to call me out on something.” 

With over 20 years of experience in the journalism industry, Dennis has done everything from being a radio announcer, professor, news editor, freelance reporter, etc. He always had an interest in radio, however the very start of his career and overall interest in journalism was during his orientation for freshman year at North Central College in Naperville, Illinois. 

The leader of his orientation group, Dave Monahn, was also the sports editor for the school newspaper, The Chronicle. When Dennis heard about The Chronicle in need of a volleyball reporter, he wasn’t interested. However, when he realized that it might help him have a chance with his crush, Tara Fenske, who was a middle hitter in volleyball, he went with it. 

“Every experience you have on this earth makes you a better journalist, honestly. And I’ve made mistakes in journalism, that helped me tremendously to move forward,” he said. “You’ll realize that different people remind you of people from your past. And so, you learn, you know, how can I approach this person or how do I need to get the information from this person.”

Dennis wouldn’t have the success he has now if he didn’t make mistakes in the past. Although he made mistakes, it was earlier on, so he had plenty of time to learn from his mistakes and build his career as a journalist.

“You are put in situations and you see things that you would never would likely ever normally see. It hasn’t made me sad about the world,” he said. “It’s made me motivated to change the world and it’s made me motivated to uncover stories like that, and to shine the spotlight on things that need to be addressed.”

Transitioning from volleyball reporter to full time journalist, Dennis covered events that were much more complex than covering a volleyball match at North Central College. He saw the world at some of the toughest times, but despite how bad situations were, he was able to make people aware of them. And that was a big change from what he initially started in.

“And he was such a good listener. I learned so much from him on how to listen to people and genuinely care and show some empathy to people,” he said.

Dennis was able to be patient and truly care about the subject when interviewing and he realized that it came from his past. When looking about and reflecting about his dad, Walter, he realized that he gained beneficial skills early on in his life, which shaped him to be a better journalist. 

Although Dennis was very hesitant working in a career related to journalism, after every single experience, he began to enjoy every bit of it.

“I love journalism, and I love getting to meet people and hear their stories,” he said. “And yeah, I would definitely do it over again if I had to.”

From an Author to a Journalist

Journalist Averi Caldwell’s childhood dream was to become a novelist. Interestingly, that led her to a career in journalism.

“In the eighth grade, I read this fantasy novel, and the author instantly became my favorite of all time,” Caldwell said of her favorite childhood author Rainbow Rowell. “And I stalked her, of course– I found out she was a journalist, and then she was an author.  And I was like, ‘What is this journalism world?’  So I learned that I like writing and I just kind of wanted to follow in her footsteps.”  

Growing up in Griffin, Georgia, Caldwell developed her love for reading and her interest in journalism.  When it came time for her to go off to college, she chose to attend UGA’s Grady College of Journalism and Mass Communication.

“The community of journalists here genuinely want to help each other out and just be a network,” she said.

Caldwell graduated from UGA with a bachelor’s degree in journalism, with minors in English and Spanish.  She has held positions at UGA’s online newspaper Columns, as well as The Red & Black, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution and InfUSion Magazine.  As she began to work as a journalist, she realized that she was able to make a difference, especially using her knowledge of Spanish.

“I was the only one in the office at the time that spoke Spanish and I kept bringing up that we have people in the community who speak Spanish,”she said.

Caldwell  acts as an advocate for Spanish-speaking citizens as a journalist, but she also empathizes with all people.

“It might be naive, but I don’t think people are bad,” she said. “I think all people are good and circumstances in life push people to be mean or make bad decisions.  So, I just think that living with that mindset and working with that mindset and knowing that even if someone’s a little snippy on social media, or if they don’t like a question I’ve asked, they’re just a person maybe having a bad day.”

This mindset has helped Caldwell build a successful journalism career, overcoming her natural introverted character. 

“I just like talking to people,” she said  “I am a little shy, but in one-on-one conversations I love interviewing people.  So, I think maybe that drew me to journalism and makes me a better journalist.”

Not Just Joe Dennis

Joe Dennis, a seemingly simple man living in Georgia, a Christian family man, and a teacher at two universities in Georgia, is much more insightful and knowledgeable than one may think.

Dennis said, “You will develop empathy. It’s undeniable. You are put in situations and see things you normally wouldn’t.” 

He also said, “So I think it’s done quite the opposite. It hasn’t made me sad about the world; it’s made me motivated to change the world, uncover stories like that, and shine a light on things that need to be addressed.”

Dennis wanted to share and gain every inch of knowledge he could; he was inspired by meeting others and listening thoroughly to people from anywhere and everywhere. Dennis attended Catholic school in a small town in Illinois for 12 years. He then spent four years at North Central College in Naperville, Illinois. Dennis then continued his journalistic journey at the University of Georgia by getting his doctorate in mass communications and journalism; years later, he began teaching the multimedia journalism class at UGA.

“Every experience you have on this earth informs you and makes you a better journalist. Dennis said, “And I’ve made mistakes in journalism. That helped me tremendously to move forward. But it’s funny when you meet so many people; as you get older and older and older, you’ll realize that different people remind you of people from your past.”

Dennis is deeply connected with the people and stories he’s encountered as a journalist. Through these deep connections, he has acquired much wisdom and insight, which he shared with his UGA journalism class for high schoolers. Dennis’s words resonated with me; his worldview and wisdom have helped me understand the kind of person he is through pretty much a stranger’s glance. That emphasizes how someone can find a story in anything and anyone, even after a short time. That was something Dennis wanted to teach the class. Dennis has a lot of information and knowledge to share with people, and he is excellent at expressing his expertise.

Until his death about ten years ago, he was the kind of family patriarch. If you ever had a problem, you would talk to my dad. 

Dennis says, “ he was just such a good listener. 

Dennis says, “You know, he had a very level-headed temper. I learned so much from him on how to listen to people and to like, genuinely like care and show some empathy to people.”

Through the words Dennis shared about his father, it is apparent that he was his mentor and his guidance through this wild world. Dennis learned a lot from his father, and his traits stem from the knowledge he gained from him. His father always listened to him, so he became a journalist. Dennis learned how to genuinely care for others and share his empathy with anyone he encountered; through his father’s guidance, Dennis grew and excelled in journalism. Dennis’s deep connection to journalism and uncovering some of the most tragic stories is personal; he is continuing his dad’s legacy as a listener and as an empathetic character, which shows the kind of person Dennis is.

“We took pictures of this little kid playing, and it just generated so much sympathy, it spurred the Monroe City Council to address this issue and pass bills to deal with it.”

Instead of emphasizing the tragedies of slum-lording, Dennis captured a gentle-hearted moment of a little boy living under these conditions, still smiling. These images were something people could empathize with and hopefully understand, as well as the importance of why the issue needs to be addressed sooner rather than later. Dennis captured a beautiful moment, so beautiful that it is still the most important and inspiring story he’s ever covered, all because he was able to help a little boy.

Dennis’s efforts in this story led to the Monroe City Council helping relieve some of the slumlord issues in Georgia, and this was a proud moment for Dennis. This was a proud momentnot because of the attention on the story or the fact that the City Council recognized him but because he helped people.

Dennis’s talk about capturing this moment in time and forgetting all of the chaos behind the scenes was a beautiful sentiment for the story he covered, and this sentiment showed through the Monroe City Council’s efforts to relieve the community’s struggles.

“The last words my dad said to me before he died were to be the peacemaker, and that’s what I’ve spent my time trying to do.”

Say It Ain’t So Joe

In Chicago, the summer of 1976, on Aug. 30th the world was introduced to Joe Dennis. Little did anyone know, he would go out and try to discover everyone’s story as a journalist, all while adorned in his iconic fedora. 

“[Journalism] made me motivated to change the world. And it’s made me motivated to uncover stories like that and to shine a spotlight on things that need to be addressed,” Dennis said. 

Born and raised in the Southside of Chicago, Dennis was brought up in a way familiar to many Filipinos: a Catholic household. He attended Catholic school through 12th grade and once school was over, he decided “the first thing I couldn’t wait to do was not go to church, because I was so tired of it.”

 However, since meeting his wife, he became closer to his faith once he found a church that reaffirmed his beliefs.

“My Christian belief at the core of Christianity is Jesus and being a Christ centered person. Just treating everyone with love and respect and not judging,” Dennis said. 

Along with his religious beliefs, Dennis has grown to become a man of many passions. His love of Kesha, the White Socks, and his utter hatred of the Mcdonalds on Prince, as well AT&T, are what make Dennis unlike any other. Among his many passions is one that he holds close to his heart. His love of journalism. Dennis was introduced to the world of journalism through an odd pairing, volleyball and pizza. Through this unique connection, Dennis dove head first into the world of journalism as a student at North Central College.

“I looked at college as a time to kind of reinvent myself, and I wanted to be a big fish in a little pond, as opposed to a small fish in a big pond,” said Dennis.

Being a big fish in a little pond was exactly what Dennis accomplished at his first job in Monroe, Georgia at the Walton Tribune. Dabbling in many forms of media, Dennis settled on becoming a host for the radio show “The Big Rock Show.” He was the disc jockey for this show for 10 years.  

“I became a professional disc jockey, I emulated that energy that they had to their shows like it, you know, just very high energy, and I use that now, even still to this day, because I’m the public address announcer for the Georgia hockey team. I still get to have some of that energy that I love communicating when I do that.”

Eventually, Dennis left the journalism world to become a dad. He now resides in Athens, Georgia, where he lives with his wife Carla, and his three sons. Currently, he is an associate professor of mass communications at Piedmont University. Dennis shares his passions and love for journalism with many young students through the UGA summer programs at Grady college. He continues to share valuable advice to students looking to follow in the career of journalism.

“If you’re like a news journalist or a community journalist, you will develop empathy,” Dennis continued, “It’s undeniable, because you are put in situations and you see things that you wouldn’t, never, likely, never normally see.”

Despite not being a journalist, Dennis still looks back on his time being a journalist as a happy time.

“I love journalism and I love getting to meet people and hear their stories, and, yeah, I would definitely do it over again.”

From Paper to Plasma

Many people have no idea that some of the most creative, and impactful filmmakers who make magic on the big screen started off as writers and critics who made magic on paper. Averi Caldwell, a 22-year-old graduate student at the University of Georgia, plans to contribute to this unique career pipeline. 

Ever since the eighth grade, Caldwell has held an interest in Journalism, overall finding a “love for [her]self after journalism.”

Caldwell has had a successful early career in writing and journalism, with her experience writing for the Atlanta Journal-Constitution and InfUSion Magazine. Over the years, though, Caldwell has discovered an interest in a different kind of storytelling. 

With a love for movies and long stories, she said she has found an “appreciation for visual journalism and the ways that good writing impacts the way that things are taken in visually,” and now aspires to be a documentary filmmaker.

While the two career choices of being a journalist and a filmmaker may seem drastically different, the two are connected. Many successful filmmakers started out as writers and journalists. 

Peter Bogdanovich, director of ‘70s box office hits such as “The Last Picture” and “Paper Moon” is a riveting example. Bogdanovich started off as a film critic and writer for Film Culture and Esquire magazines. Years later, he moved on to creating films due to a deep passion for translating his creativity onto the big screen, leading him into an entire new world of accomplishments. 

Caldwell shares this same passion, and explains her sudden appeal to moving on to visual journalism by claiming that “documentary filmmaking is a great way to get audiences closer to the story and subjects”.

Ever since her professor in her first video class introduced her to the world of filmmaking, she feels more inspired by the audience of an everyday film viewer rather than the audience of a typical New York Times reader.

“It’s easier to put a quote to a face and feel a human connection,” Caldwell says.

Shaping Joe Dennis

It’s no mystery why a New York street vendor felt compelled to match the wandering pedestrian that was Joe Dennis with a hat that had the same playful energy. A friendly face under a felt fedora brings to light Joe’s golden aura.

“I knew it was the last time I was going to see him, and he knew it, and his last words were, Be the peacemaker. And so that’s something I definitely want to spread.” Joe Dennis said, sharing the commemorative advice of his father that he’s used to guide him in all aspects of his personal life.

Joe Dennis has many roles in his life: teacher, father, coach, journalist, devoted church member, and hardcore Kesha fan. But each and every one of these stems from his love of interacting with and caring for other people. Which he admits is largely attributed to his father, Walter Dennis, and religious background. Growing up in Chicago, Illinois, Joe had a “love thy neighbor” environment as he was raised in a very Catholic family. He attended Catholic school for all 12 years of his school career before going to North Central College in Naperville, Illinois, meaning he was no stranger to a Christian mindset. However, Joe’s father, who was on the path of becoming a priest before meeting Joe’s mother, made sure that the Christian values his sons would internalize would be to respect everyone and spread the love of Christ.

“This church that we go to was doing that, and I’m like, well, this is perfect, because it matches my Christian belief that at the core of Christianity is Jesus, being a Christ-centered person, and you should treat everyone with love and respect and not judge. And I found a church that does that, and so I’m all in.”

Religion has been a major factor in Joe’s life, and it still is to this day. Different points in his life morphed his relationship with faith, like many who spend their whole lives with religious influences. Joe shared that once he got to college, he was eager to take a break from the church and became separate from sermons and sanctuary, but once he met his wife, Carla Dennis, who is evangelical, he began going to church with her and reconnected with the Christian community. Once he and his wife married and moved to Georgia, they went through another period where church didn’t factor into their daily lives. But once the tragedy of 9/11 occurred and the entire nation entered a time where they needed faith, Joe and Carla found their way to another local church. Now they’re active members of a united methodist church that perfectly aligns with Joe’s accepting beliefs.

“Yeah, so it’s basically raising them in a way similar to how my dad raised me, where, you know, I tell them not to bully, to see the good in everyone you know, and just to be the light for someone, because you never know how you can change someone’s life at any given day just by a positive interaction.”

Joe has three sons and has made sure to model his parenting after his fathers. He finds it extremely important to pass on the moral code of giving, understanding, and viewing everyone as human that he was raised with. He makes sure that in every family quarrel there is mediation and peace, and he has stressed to them that no matter who you’re talking with, judgment has no place in the conversation. 

“You know, it’s funny, because my oldest son just kind of told me, he’s 20 now, and he was like, ‘Man, Dad, you did something right. Because if I see $1 on the ground, I can’t pick it up without looking around and seeing who I should ask. Is there anyone who might have lost his or is asking some stranger, is it yours?’ Yeah, and that meant a lot to me.”

There are many factors to what makes Joe, Joe, but he evidently carries on Walter Dennis’s legacy and the word of God with respect and radiance.
“Really, I was raised as a Christian who truly embraces the love of Christ and tries to spread that in my interactions with people. And so I was raised to never judge people, to not talk bad about people, and so that has been a huge influence for me, as I’ve ventured out into journalism and interviewed people and talked to people, even people that I like vehemently disagree with, I’m able to recognize them as children of God, basically, as fellow humans, and see the good in everyone.”

Community during COVID

During a time of isolation and chaos, college student Averi Caldwell found a unique way of connecting with her community. 

“I was on the internet a lot more,” Caldwell said. “I made online friends with people that watched the same shows I watched.”

On March 11, 2020, COVID-19 was declared a global pandemic and the world stood still. Businesses, restaurants, sports venues and schools shut down forcing people all over the world to quarantine. Caldwell was halfway through her first year when she heard that she had to evacuate campus and return to her hometown of Griffin, Georgia. Alongside 6,000 of her peers, Caldwell missed out on numerous opportunities and experiences her freshman year due to COVID. 

“Those are two years of network building and community that I missed out on,” she said. 

Students, teachers and parents across the globe had to adapt to school on a screen. This led to many complications such as internet crashes, absences in class, and a lack of learning. For Caldwell, online school didn’t present a major challenge as she managed to maintain good grades and motivation to keep learning, but certain subjects like Spanish presented obvious challenges. 

“In my Spanish class, virtually, I don’t think I got the most out of that just because it’s hard to learn a language you don’t know on a computer,” Caldwell said. 

Although it was prohibited to see others outside of one’s immediate circle, people found creative new ways to connect with friends. Caldwell discovered that her love for movies and TV was a good way to interact with people online, and formed friendships through their shared interests. These interactions helped Caldwell break out of her shell during the pandemic, which was important for her future as a journalist as she’s required to interact with people for interviews.

“When meeting someone, I’m a little shy,” Caldwell said. “But then, I just got to cook.”

Joe Dennis: A Man of Many Hats

Dr. Joe Dennis, Chair of the Department of Mass Communications at Piedmont University, has impressive experience as a radio host, journalist, professor and father, each role providing numerous opportunities and obstacles. 

“I looked at college as a time to reinvent myself, and I wanted to be a big fish in a little pond as opposed to a small fish in a big pond,” Dennis said.

Joe attended North Central College, a private liberal arts college in Naperville, Illinois. Dennis was attracted to North Central because they had an exceptional radio program, an interest of his since childhood. Dennis became a professional disc jockey and emulated the energy of the radio show hosts he had listened to as a child. Joe still utilizes his high energy to this day as he is the public address announcer for the University of Georgia hockey team.

“I think if you are a journalist, and especially if you are a news journalist or a community journalist, you will develop empathy,” Dennis said. “It is undeniable, because you are put in situations, and you see things that you would likely never see.”

Joe is referring to a series he worked on at the Walton Tribune that covered slum-lording, which went on to win a Georgia Press award for Best Community Service. The story was told through the lens of a child who lived in a slumlord’s home. Dennis said that the environment was disgusting, filled with rats crawling into the home and fly traps hanging from the ceiling. Joe took pictures of the small child playing and the photos created an enormous amount of sympathy, spurring the Monroe City Council to address slumlording and pass bills to potentially fix the problem.

“You know, being a dad is actually how I got out of journalism,” Dennis said.

Joe and his wife Carla were shopping for their newborn son on a Sunday afternoon when the Georgia Bureau of Investigation (GBI) called. The GBI was conducting massive drug busts and invited Dennis to come along, providing a location and telling him, “You’re not going to regret it.” Being part of a drug bust was a life-changing experience, but Joe wasn’t sure if he could continue to be a journalist while building a family. That is when he began teaching. 

Dennis taught undergraduate and graduate courses at the Grady College of Journalism and Mass Communication at the University of Georgia. What makes UGA special to Joe is the network of students, the close knit community, and the connections each student possesses for the future.

Joe has played many roles throughout his lifetime, but he continues to stand by the advice, “Don’t let fear get in the way of a good opportunity.”